An Open Letter to my Ex Best Friend:

Dear Ex Best Friend,

A lot of time has passed since we spoke, lots has happened, and life has changed drastically, for both of us.
I feel as though some of the things that went down between us through our friendship, especially towards the end, are something that I need to speak up about.

We had a lot of ups and downs through the years we had together. Our friendship was beautiful, and we were so close. We shared laughter, secrets, joys and tears together. And we thought we’d be close forever. But then life happened. I got married. We drifted slightly, and you seemed to think that we needed to drift because I was in a different place in life to you. I honestly tried to keep our friendship alive. I’m a fiercely loyal person, and I will do everything in my power to keep a friendship. That is, until I have been hurt too many times and need to withdraw for my own sanity and protection, or until life’s wind blows too hard and I am forced to let go.

There’s something else that I need to tell you. Some of the fights we had were so very petty and childish. Especially in the more “immature” years. But then some of the later ones we had were not so pathetic. Some of the things you said to me seriously hurt me so badly. You said some brutal, heartless things to me, which really crushed me. I loved you so much. But there were misunderstandings. Life became a competition, mutual friends took sides, and even being friends with others seemed to be a competition with you. Then it was almost like others took our places in each others lives.
Then in the end, I had to pull away from you more. How else was I supposed to react when you stabbed me in the back? I know you thought what I said was unfair and unfeeling. But would you listen to me when I tried to explain? No. But I wish you had. We could have reasoned with each other. I would never have tried to hurt you or do anything unfair or unkind in our friendship. But why did you have to back-stab me?? I guess I will never know. But I need you to know that I was devastated by what happened. I tried so hard to keep our friendship alive. But you didn’t seem to want it anymore.

At times you said you wanted us to be close, but eventually I just didn’t know where we stood with each other. We drifted. Life went on. Now, we don’t even really talk anymore. I have SO many beautiful memories from the times we had together. People tend to hold on to memories, especially sentimental people like me. I think this is because the memories don’t change, even if the people in them do change. Because I’ve been holding on to the memories, I have still been holding on to you. But I think it is time for me to let go. Time to move on. Life is different now, and I am different too. We both are.
I will treasure the good memories for a long time. But the bad ones, I’m letting go now. Once this is off my chest, it’s gone. For good. Those harsh, bitter things you said to me… I forgive you. For turning life into a competition… I forgive you. For judging and misunderstanding me, then gossiping about it, I forgive you. I’m moving on. It’s time. Some times and some friends are only meant to be in our lives for a season, and that’s okay. We had our season, and I wish you all the very best with the next season in your life. God’s blessings to you.

Till next time,

Julie xo

“Maybe some people just aren’t meant to be in our lives forever. Maybe some people are just passing through. It’s like some people just come through our lives to bring us something: a gift, a blessing, a lesson we need to learn. And that’s why they’re here. You’ll have that gift forever. —Danielle Steel